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Have You Ever Been Through a Rite of Passage Event?

Whew! One done and four more to go.

We held a Rite of Passage event for my oldest son Abishai this year. After him I have three more boys anda girl to plan and hold them for. Another great reason to space out your kids as best you can.

We had a blast at the event and did our best to honor his passage into adulthood with…

  • Feats of strength
  • Huge amounts of carnivorous food
  • Gifts and challenges from other men
  • and Fellowship

As we planned and then held his event I tried my best to find a book that would tell me what to do. I couldn’t find one. There are articles and research into rites of passage for other cultures, but not modern America.

I found how some people groups and cultures do the following to welcome manhood…

  • perform a circumcision
  • have their young men build their own house and move out
  • turn over the care of their cows
  • and other painful, interesting, or outrageous activities and lessons

I found some neat ideas, but nothing that helped my planning, so I wrote a book about it.

If you want to plan a Rite of Passage for your young man, I hope it’s a great resource that will help you.

You can order a Kindle or print version HERE if you’d like one. Since you’re on my list I’d also love to give you something more if you order one. Just send me proof of your order by replying to this e-mail or at drdave@redteamgoals.com, and I’ll send you a PDF copy of the book to share with your spouse or Pastor.

Thanks,

Dr. Redbeard

PS…If you have any questions while you’re planning a Rite of Passage, be sure to fire them off to me. I’d love to see what you’re coming up with that’s different from the one I did.

Here’s my boy at his event…


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Jack Ryan for President

Welcome to the first installment of a brand new series exploring the leadership qualities of fictional Presidents, specifically Jack Ryan from the Tom Clancy novels.


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Best Books I Read Last Year

I read a lot of books each year. My max is around 150 that I read a few years back. I scaled it back though, because I found that I couldn’t remember as much from the books. Just too much information and not enough time to process and work on it.

Now, I read less, more fiction for enjoyment, and try to work through the non-fiction books instead of just reading them. Sometimes I’m known to read and even re-read a non-fiction book to get more out of it.

Last year I read 45 books. Here are the top gems from that list. They’re not in any particular order.

Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. This one came highly recommended from a friend. Because of it, I have an awesome morning routine that really gives me a jumpstart to the day.

Built to Sell by John Warrillow. This is actually the second time I read this book. It’s a business parable, a non-fiction book wrapped inside a fictional story to give it depth and meaning. The book is about gearing up your business to prepare it for a sell. I would highly recommend you read it before you start a business, not after. I reread it again because I’m helping a client plan his exit strategy from his business.

Scream Free Marriage by Hal Runkel. I attended one of Hal’s seminars last year and bought it there. It’s an excellent resource for self-helping your marriage. I also highly recommend any of his parenting resources.

Rise by Cara Brookins. Cara and her kids built their own house, mostly from watching Youtube videos. This book tells her amazing story.

E-Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber. This book has been out for a while, but I never picked it up. Based on a Facebook recommendation from a friend, I grabbed a copy. It’s an excellent adjunct and very similar format to Built to Sell. READ THIS BOOK before you start a business or NOW if you’ve already started one.

My fave fiction for the year-

Any of the Jack Ryan or Jack Ryan Jr. series’ from Tom Clancy

Lee Child’s Jack Reacher series


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My Compass for the Year

 

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Rite of Passage Resources- Reading List

As promised, here are resources I used and also mentioned in my book Rite of Passage- Initiating Your Son into Manhood.

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Books We Read-

Wild at Heart by John Eldridge book and small group DVD series

Raising a Modern-Day Knight by Robert Lewis

Rite of Passage by E. James Wilder

Thoughts For Young Men by J.C. Ryle

Who Wants to be Normal Anyway? by Kent Julian

Choose Your Own Adulthood by Hal Runkel

What’s Happening to Me? by Alex Frith

Mastery Journal by John Lee Dumas

The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale

 

 

Books to Read After the Rite of Passage-

Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk

4-Hour Body by Tim Ferriss

Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey

Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer

Barbarian Way by Erwin McManus

Boy’s Passage Man’s Journey by Kirk Cameron and Brian Molitor

Tribes by Seth Godin

Success Principles  by Jack Canfield

Survival Guide for Life by Bear Grylls

48 Days to the Work You Love by Dan Miller

 

Books Recommended by Other Men-

Where the Red Fern Grows by Wilson Rawls

Hatchet by Gary Paulsen

The Giver by Louis Lowry

 


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Rite of Passage Resources- Physical Fitness Test

As promised, here are resources I used and also mentioned in my book Rite of Passage- Initiating Your Son into Manhood.

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In the book I urge you to do some type of physical testing for your son as part of his Rite of Passage event. We did a modified Army fitness test., although what you do is up to you.

Working with an official military test is a good idea if you want to use a scoring method. I use these in our homeschool so I can test my kids according to their scores and look for improvements over time.

If your son is showing an aptitude for a certain sport, skill, or occupation, you could create a test based on that or possibly find one.

Whatever you do, I want you to keep several things in mind-

  1. Choose a test that will challenge him but not demean him. This event is meant to raise up a new man, not crush his spirit.
  2. Choose a test that at least some of the attendees will also be able to participate in.
  3. Choose a test that means something to you and your son.
  4. Tailor it to the event.

Below are links to several fitness tests you could choose from…

Marine Corps PFT

Army PFT

Coast Guard Rescue Swimmer PFT

Spec Ops PFT

Top 12 PFT Exercises

Alternatively, if you don’t want to use a testing format, you could always do an organized workout. We used to do these all the time in the Marine Corps. Here’s a couple of links to give you an idea of what you could do that would be really fun.


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Rite of Passage Resources- Invitation Letters

I wanted to publish the invitation letters I used and also mentioned in my book Rite of Passage- Initiating Your Son into Manhood.

This way, if you want to copy and paste them to modify them for your own use, it will be easier. All the letters and reminders I used and mentioned in the book are posted below.

*Please read them word-for-word as you modify them. Some readers have told me of words they missed that applied to my event, but simply won’t work for yours.

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Sample Letter of Invitation

Dear _____,

Greetings in the name of the Lord!

After prayerful consideration, I am writing to ask you and several other men to help with an event that is most dear to me. My _____ (son) ____________________ (name) is turning thirteen this month, and I believe that we need to celebrate his coming into the first stages of manhood in a special way. I am organizing a gathering of godly men who will pray and speak words of encouragement over ______________ (son) at a manhood ceremony to be held _______________________. I am requesting that you help in this celebration in some or all of the following ways:

(1) Write a letter to ____________ that addresses growing into mature manhood and includes a selected passage of Scripture, a life lesson that you have personally learned, and a word of blessing. This is the most important aspect of the ceremony, as _____________ will treasure these letters as he grows.

(2) Commit  to pray for ___________ during this time, asking that God will reveal His perfect plan for him.

(3) Provide a small gift that is symbolic or has particular meaning for a young man growing up. This may be a book, something crafted by hand, a plaque or picture, a knife, etc. Please understand that the emphasis here is on the symbolic meaning, not on the gift itself.

(4) Attend the ceremony if you are able. It will be held on __________ the ______ at ____________ from ____ to ______. Food and beverages will be served at the gathering.

(5) God may give you another way on how to bless this fine young man. Please feel free to be creative.

I realize that the ____ is drawing close, and I am giving you short notice. Please forgive me for this. If you cannot attend, you may send your letters or gifts to me at my home and address all correspondence to me. Although the celebration is not a complete surprise to _________, he does not know the full scale of the event and will not receive gifts or letters until that night. If you need to e-mail a letter, you may send it to my personal e-mail address, and I will print it out for that night.

I am indebted to you for your kindness and your influence in both mine and __________’s life. If I can return the favor for a special young person in your life , just say the word, and I will respond. I want to thank you in advance for helping me to send this fine young man into God’s plan for his life! Please call me if you have any questions.

Letter to Attendees- Six Months Prior

Men, this message is only going out to a few of you who are special to me and Abishai. I need your help for an upcoming event for him.

Alright, here goes…

In about six months my oldest son Abishai will be turning 13 years old. Shortly after his birthday in July, we will be holding a Rite of Passage ceremony to welcome him into manhood. This ceremony will be a time  for other men to welcome him “to a seat at the table”. A seat at the table is a term meaning that a young man was allowed to sit and converse with other men as an equal, albeit an inexperienced one.

Why a Rite of Passage? The age of thirteen doesn’t mean that he will automatically be a mature man at that age. Certainly not. Maturity comes with age and experience, and we can all attest that some men never reach that level of manhood. In this time and culture men are often left without a clear mark in time when they became a man and were expected to act as such. Many men relate manhood to their first beer, the age of eighteen, a first sexual experience, or military service. This is arbitrary and unhelpful.

At the age of thirteen, he will be physically capable of reproducing. This is an awesome responsibility and one taken lightly by many. It is because of this responsibility that myself and my wife Korrene have decided to mark a point in time where he is expected to behave as a man and grow into mature manhood.

This letter is an advance notice for you. As a valued man in my life and Abishai’s life, I would like to invite you to take part in this ceremony either in person or from a distance (if you can’t make it to the event). I’ll stay in touch and let you know as soon as a date and location are decided, but it will be in mid-July.

In the meantime I could use your help. All of his twelfth year has been and will be spent in preparation for his Rite of Passage ceremony, but I could use your input…

What books would you put on a required reading list for a young man?

What areas of knowledge would you see as essential to become a mature young man?

What skills do you believe a young man should know, at least at a novice level?

Feel free to get in touch with me if you have any advice or information to offer. My contact information is below. If you wish for anything you tell me to remain confidential as to who it came from, please let me know.

Thank you.

Letter to Attendees- Three Months Prior

Only three more months until my son Abishai turns thirteen. We’ll hold his Rite of Passage celebration to welcome him to a seat at the table of men. I hope you will be able to participate either in person or in some other way. Right now, it is tentatively scheduled for July 15, 2017.

One of the many things I’m doing for him is to assemble a Book of Knowledge. This Book of Knowledge will contain two main sections. One of them he already has access to. It contains information that I want him to know before the event, certain essential lessons that I feel he should have a proper grasp of at thirteen.

I would also like to add a second section that you can help me with, and some of you have already done so. This second section will contain stories and advice from you, the valued men in our lives. What I need from you are stories and lessons that you can offer that will go into this book and enrich his journey into maturity. If you don’t mind, could you send me any personal material you feel should be included?

Here are just a few ideas…

Events that shaped your life, such as war stories

Photographs

Lessons you learned or were passed down to you from others

Stories of your own failures

Your favorite Bible story or verse

With each entry in this Book of Knowledge I also plan on adding a short biography highlighting how we know each other to show him an example of the depth of how male friendships are made. For this bio, please feel free to add any information you would like represented that was formative for you, such as military experience, Boy Scouts, a religious conversion, or something about your family.

In addition to your entries, I would also like for you to begin considering a gift of some kind. It does not have to be large or expensive. It just needs to be meaningful. An excellent example of a gift is one from my own life. It was an inexpensive pin that cost no more than a few dollars. On it was an eagle, a globe, and an anchor. It was a Marine Corps emblem handed to me at the end of Boot Camp by my Drill Instructor. That inexpensive pin was earned with a great measure of blood and sweat and I greatly revered the man who gave it to me.

What token could you offer that would mean something to a young man?

If you don’t feel like you will be able to make it to the event, please don’t worry. I still want you to participate. For the men who won’t be in attendance in person, I would like to play videos of you speaking into his life. Please start considering what you would like to say and feel free to send over a video at any time.

Thank you so much for helping, and also for being a member of my fraternity of men.

Letter to Attendees- Two Months Prior

We’re two month’s out from my oldest son Abishai’s Rite of Passage event, so I wanted to send out another reminder. I really want this day to be special for him, and I need your help to do that.

The big news is that I have a date and location. It will be July 15 at Audubon Acres in Chattanooga. Audubon is a 130 acre wildlife sanctuary near our home. They graciously gave me the use of their classroom facilities for the evening.

The event will start in the afternoon with feats of strength. Abishai will be completing a physical fitness test consisting of push-ups, sit-ups, and a 3 mile run. Even better, all the men in attendance are welcome to join him or even motivate him from the sidelines. I may challenge him to a push-up contest myself, but I’ll leave the 3 mile run to some of you other guys.

Feel free to let me know by e-mail, phone, or text if you are attending in person or not.

Aside from the RSVP, I still have a few things for you to consider…

  • Video message if you won’t be able to attend in person
  • Small gift
  • Message to include in the Book of Knowledge

So far, I’ve had some amazing responses from several best-selling authors in the Christian world, some friends and some who just wanted to bless him, even though we don’t know them personally. They’ve sent boxes of gifts and personal letters. I’m saving all of these for him to open at the event.

I look forward to hearing from you and seeing you in July.

PS…For those who are coming from out of town, I’ll send directions and hotel information in the next e-mail. We’ll be moving before then, but I’m not sure where yet. If I have a big enough yard or floor space, you’re more than welcome to stay with me in tents or in any open space in the house.

Letter to Attendees- One Month Prior

We’re just a month out from my oldest son Abishai’s Rite of Passage celebration on July 15, 2017.

There’s been a big change though, and I wanted to let everyone know in case it affects your plans to attend. We’re moving from Chattanooga TN to Surfside Beach SC this month, so the event will now be in Myrtle Beach SC. I’ll have a firm location for you soon. The really great news is that there is no shortage of hotels, Airbnb’s, and campgrounds to choose from. Or you could rent an entire beach house with its own pool!

Here’s where I need your help. We’re pretty much at Go Time with the planning, and I need a firm commitment from you in the form of an RSVP if you can make it. This way I can plan on plenty of grub for everyone to eat and enough room that we can have some space to get rowdy if we need to.

Feel free to let me know by e-mail, phone, or text if you are attending in person or not. If you can’t attend in person, I understand. All I ask is that you send him something for the event either way, like a video, handwritten letter, or a small gift.

Once again the Rite of Passage celebration will be in Myrtle Beach SC on July 15, 2017.

Aside from the RSVP, I want you to consider…

  • Video message or letter if you won’t be able to attend in person
  • Small gift
  • Message to include in the Book of Knowledge

I look forward to hearing back from you.

Thanks!

PS…If you’ve already sent something, all I need is your RSVP if you’ll make it to the event.

Letter to Attendees- One Week Prior

Wow! In just a week, we’ll be celebrating my oldest son Abishai’s Rite of Passage ceremony on Saturday July 15.

We just moved back to Myrtle Beach SC, so it’s been a little crazy getting the move underway and settled…and then prepping for his event.

Here’s the specs on the event…

  • Saturday July 15 at 1900 hrs (7pm) until 2100 hrs (9pm).
  • Friendship Baptist Church fellowship hall at 605 6th Ave S in Myrtle Beach. The church should pull up easy on your phone maps. Don’t worry, it’s not too close to the area now known as ‘Murder Beach’ here in town.
  • Dress is casual, possibly even workout clothes, as you’ll see below.

If you’re coming from out of town, there is no shortage of hotels, Airbnb’s, and campgrounds to choose from. Or you could rent an entire beach house with its own pool!

Here’s where I need your help. Planning is done and it’s Go Time! I need a firm commitment from you in the form of an RSVP if you can make it. This way I can plan on plenty of grub for everyone to eat and enough room that we can have some space to get rowdy if we need to. If you’ve already told me, I have you on the list.

Feel free to let me know by e-mail, phone, or text if you are attending in person or not. If you can’t attend in person, I understand. All I ask is that you send him something for the event either way, like a video, handwritten letter, or a small gift.

In addition to an RSVP, I want you to consider…

  • Video message or letter if you won’t be able to attend in person
  • Small gift
  • Message to include in the Book of Knowledge

We’ll begin with a physical fitness test for him, hence the casual dress for the event. It’ll consist of max push-ups in 2 minutes, max sit-ups in 2 minutes, and a 1.5 mile run. If you’re up to it, join him. He may even challenge some of you men to a push-up contest. The run would be a great time to go out for an easy jog and talk with him.

Disclaimer- You are more than welcome to bring your sons, but ONLY if they’re 13 or older. I am hoping you’ve already had that series of awkward talks with your son if he is 13. ABSOLUTELY no women are invited. Men only! This way, we don’t have to be as careful what we talk about, and we’ll be perfectly free to be men.

I look forward to hearing back from you.

Thanks!

Several Days Prior Reminder

Men, I want to thank all of you for permitting me to flood your mailboxes and e-mail boxes with invites to my oldest son Abishai’s Rite of Passage event. This is the last time you’ll hear from me on it before I see some of you on Saturday.

I just wanted to send out one last reminder.

Here’s the specs…

  • Saturday July 15 at 1900 hrs (7pm) until 2100 hrs (9pm).
  • Friendship Baptist Church fellowship hall at 605 6th Ave S in Myrtle Beach.
  • Dress is casual, even workout clothes.

Last chance to send over a message or video for me to include in the ceremony. If you have something like that or a gift to drop off, please do it quick.

We’ll begin with the PT test, hence the casual dress for the event.

  • Max push-ups in 2 minutes
  • Max sit-ups in 2 minutes
  • 5 mile run

If you’re up to it, join him. He may even challenge some of you men to a push-up contest. The run would be a great time to go out for an easy jog and talk with him.

You’re welcome to bring your sons if they’re 13 or older, but ABSOLUTELY no women are invited. Men only! This way, we don’t have to be as careful what we talk about, and we’ll be perfectly free to be men.

Here’s who I’ve heard from, in case I missed anyone…

Attending- ______

Gifts, letters, and/or videos from _______

This is a pretty awesome mix of pastors, Marines, family, best-selling authors, and friends.

Thanks!


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Quit Telling Me I’m Fat!

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I’ve been on a long journey, like many of you, with the issues of body image and fat.

For what seems like forever, people have told me I’m fat. Morbidly obese even. They did this after weighing me, checking my height, and then consulting the almighty BMI, or Body Mass Index charts.

Stupid charts.

Stupid mindless doctors.

I got tired of it and started asking other experts. It turns out that there’s a lot of things that people have said was wrong with me that wasn’t. It was just different. I’m talking everything from a heart condition to this notion of my imaginary obesity.

By the way, here’s me in all my glory, ready to punch the next doctor who tells me I’m fat…

Dave Powers

Here’s two of the adventures I’ve embarked on to seek advice from other experts…

I checked my body fat percentage in a Bod Pod. You can read about that HERE.

I also bought a set of skin calipers to pinch my fat and check my progress that way instead of consulting the scales. I bought them on Amazon for just $7.99. 

Those scales always lie don’t they? (Maybe at least some of the time?)

My main points are these-

Don’t trust the experts without proof.

Become an expert yourself and do things the right way.

Don’t let people tell you that you’re fat.


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What do Professor Marston and Wonder Woman have to do with DISC Profiles?

Category : Coaching

Professor Marston and the Wonder Women hits theaters tomorrow. It’s a movie that hasn’t generated a lot of buzz among typical moviegoers, but has generated a tremendous amount of interest among a few select groups, including several I belong to…

Nerds. I’m a nerd at heart. As a matter of fact, I sold my first comic book collection to pay for my undergrad schooling (I still weep over that sometimes). Professor Marston is perhaps best known as the creator of Wonder Woman.

Leadership Experts. A crap ton of people have taken DISC personality profile tests. I use them all the time with my own coaching clients and love using them to address groups when I do consulting work. Professor Marston was the creator of the DISC.

*In case you’re wondering, a crap ton is a real measurement, as in Wonder Woman can lift 15 of them.

I’m excited about the movie, as it will present a visual peek into his life and his work. If you use DISC profiles as well, you should enjoy it as well, as it will provide insight into their creation.

I’d like to give you a little background on Dr. Marston so you go into the theater fully prepared.

Dr. William Moulton Marston, who passed away in 1947, was a psychologist, self-help author, and comic book writer. Like me, he assembled a body of research that bridged the gaps between seemingly unrelated areas. Some of my research into cognitive psychology has been incorporated into books in areas ranging from theology to Game of Thrones.

Marston invented an early prototype of a lie detector machine. It wasn’t as cool or perfect as the one Wonder Woman carried.  Her Lasso of Truth never failed to produce results, but, of course, it was magic. Even so, at the time, Marston’s machine seemed like magic.

A 1928 paper title Emotions of Normal People discussed Marston’s DISC theory. Originally the four axes were…

  • Dominance produces activity in an antagonistic environment
  • Inducement produces activity in a favorable environment
  • Submission produces passivity in a favorable environment
  • Compliance produces passivity in an antagonistic environment.

The original notions of his DISC theory haven’t changed over the years, but the wording we use to describe them has. For example, with the system I use, the wording is much more expressive. Check out the image below. It expresses the total workforce of a company I consulted with.

 

Although his wife Elizabeth Holloway Marston went largely uncredited for her work because of the roles of women at the time, she contributed greatly to  many of his endeavors. Due to her influence and those of his mistress, Marston was a huge supporter of feminism and women’s rights. It was his wife’s idea to create a female superhero.

Of her creation Marston wrote, “Not even girls want to be girls so long as our feminine archetype lacks force, strength, and power. Not wanting to be girls, they don’t want to be tender, submissive, peace-loving as good women are. Women’s strong qualities have become despised because of their weakness. The obvious remedy is to create a feminine character with all the strength of Superman plus all the allure of a good and beautiful woman.”

There’s so much more, but not enough space here to tell it all. I highly recommend the movie and the recent Wonder Woman movie as well. Just know going into this movie that it will deal with some adult elements. As far as I can tell, both his wife and mistress were friends and knew all about each other. I don’t want to ruin anything for you, though, so I’ll stop there.

PS…If you want to take a peek at my DISC results, you’ll have to leave a comment below.


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Here’s Last Week’s Facepunch Friday

Category : Level Up

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