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What’s the Best Way to Break a Promise?

I had to break a promise to my kids the other day. Have you ever had to do that? Or maybe break a promise to a client?

Is there a best way to do that?

Me and my wife gave a neat present to each of our kids for Christmas last year. It was a weekend trip of their choosing. You can see from the picture below what it was. Basically, we typed up some specs, gave them a map for reference, and wrapped each one’s sheet of paper in a box or bag.

They thought it was pretty cool. Like enterprising kids can be, they started plotting how to join their trips together for a longer trip somewhere further away. My two older boys were scouting out the middle of Florida where we could do a bunch of freediving in freshwater caves, play with alligators, and go mountain biking.

Then, all of a sudden, we had to take it all away. Our whole family just got on the Dave Ramsey plan to get out of debt and some big bills came due to get our house ready to sell. We could no longer afford the trip without stacking more debt on the credit cards, and we couldn’t justify doing that.

We sat the kids down and explained things to them. The older ones understood because they listen to Dave Ramsey a lot, but the younger ones just feel jipped for losing their Christmas gift. I feel crappy too. I feel like I just handed them a new toy, let them play with it for a minute, and then took it away so I could smash it with a hammer in front of them.

I guess what I’m saying is this. There’s no good way to break a promise. It’s like a pulling a tooth. If you don’t have to do it, don’t. If you have to do it, do it fast and get it over with. If you can find an alternative, do that.

So, what about you? What promises have you ever had to break and how did you do it?

Dr. Dave

PS…I just released a new book on using science fiction for education. I originally produced it under contract for a publisher, but it’s been cleared for me to release it on my own now. You can find it HERE if you’re interested.

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My Experiences with the Pinhole Gum Surgery- 1 Week After

This is a departure from my usual leadership and awesomeness fare, in a post that will delve into my personal life more.

I just had a pinhole operation done on my gums last week. Before the surgery when I was doing my due diligence and looking it up, reading about it, and looking at alternatives I found plenty of information about the operation itself, but none from patients. All of it was from the point-of-view of the dentists.

I thought I’d put my own experience out there so others could judge for themselves and know what’s what with the procedure.

Even though this post might be dated when a reader finds it, the information will be even better because I’ll have a longer experience to refer to. If anyone has questions, be sure to ask.

Prior to the Procedure-

I actually delayed this thing for months because I just wasn’t keen on an operation in my mouth. I hate anything to do with dentists, mainly because I’ve had a few horrible experiences to taint my view of anything dentistry-related.

I finally did it because I wanted the majority of the healing to be over with before I travelled to a couple of high profile keynote speaking opportunities.

My dentist was great on advising me about the procedure and the aftercare, which is quite extensive, with the exception of one thing. She didn’t tell me beforehand about the no soft drinks thing. This floored me when she told me after the procedure. Instead of weaning myself down (i.e. drinking a 12 pack of Mountain Dew the day before!!!), I had to go cold turkey.

Hint- buy this one week prior and enjoy with my blessing.

I have a weak bladder when I’m nervous (i.e. at the dentist), so I overhydrated the day before and drank almost nothing the morning before the operation. The procedure lasts about 2 hours, and there’s no getting up to go pee pee once she starts.

Mine was scheduled after lunch, which worked great. Consider it a last solid meal for a while kind of thing. Whenever you schedule your procedure, eat a big meal first. You won’t want to eat for a while.

During the Procedure-

My dentist has those cool noise cancelling headphones for patients. That and two episodes of Property Brothers got me through most of the operation. However, if you can go the full sedation route, do it.

During the procedure, there was a lot of grinding, tearing, and ripping kind of noises, which pretty much raised my stress level. A couple of times, she pretty much lifted my head up off the chair pulling on my gums. The noises aren’t that bad, as long as you don’t mind the kind of noises that are on the Saw movies while people are being torn apart.

The procedure itself didn’t hurt too bad. Not as bad as a sharp stick in the eye, as Jack Reacher often quips.

After the Procedure-

Afterward, it hurt like hell. I’ve been in a lot of fights in my years, and I’m talking full on people-trying-to-kill-me fights with my time in the Marines and Homeland Security. My face felt worse after this than any of them. A week later and  I can’t touch that side of my face without wincing.

My face is still really swollen, and if I didn’t have my legendary fierce red beard to cover it up, you’d see bruising all over. This is me prior to the surgery all flowers and happiness…

I’ve not eaten on the right side of my mouth for a week, which limits what I can eat and how big my bites are. I can’t eat anything crunchy or sticky for a long time, so it’s mostly soups and tofu for me.

Facial movements are really inhibited because I can’t stretch the gum area until it heals longer. That means no popping my jaw, spitting, blowing on anything, laughing, or even working out. If I grimace or smile too big, I’m afraid my face might fall off. I feel like a really grumpy looking robot.

Oh yeah, no soft drinks for a long time either. Did I already say that? Oh well, it bears repeating.

The Results-

The dentist showed me pictures of the before and after shots. She did this because I’m not even supposed to look at it. Pulling my lip down to look will stretch the gum. Do you know how hard it is not to look now that she told me not to? It’s crazy unbearable. It’s like when the guy at a restaurant tells you the plate’s hot.

The pics looked good though. My gum area on that side was recessed really bad, mainly because I’m such a crazy strong brusher, and I’m left-handed. Now it looks like it should.

I’m getting used to the new eating protocols. The way I look at it, I’ll probably shed a few pounds, in the sense that you usually lose about 10 pounds if you get the flu. I’ll lose my ten because my face hurts, and I can’t eat.

With all that said, the whole thing isn’t unbearable. It’s better than a tooth implant as far as I can tell. If my gums got much worse, I might’ve lost three teeth because of the exposed roots and such.

I’ll continue to update this series of posts as time goes on, and the healing continues. In case you’d like to hear me talking after the procedure, check out my video explanation below.

Your non-smiling friend Dr. Dave

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at Thanks for reading!

In the words of Starship Troopers, “Would you like to know more?”





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What are Your Kids Reading?

I am a voracious reader. Have been since I was a wee little brat.

I once read The Hobbit during a sick day at home in elementary school.

One year I read over a 100 books.

I often have 3-5 books I’m reading at any given time.

But no matter how much I love reading, I just can’t get my kids to appreciate it as much as I’d like. If you have any suggestions I’d love to hear them.

I did find one idea that I started incorporating into my own books that I write.

This is my little girl Astrid looking through a copy of Expert Secrets by Russell Brunson. She just picked it up and started leafing through it. You know why?


All over his book, written by an adult for adults, Russell has stick figure drawings to illustrate key concepts. They’ve become so popular that he even published a small booklet with nothing but the drawings inside.

I’d show you one, but I didn’t ask Russell’s permission yet, so I better not. You can buy his book right HERE if you’re interested.

I’m not saying you need to insert cartoons into everything you do, but what I am saying is this, if you want to reach both kids and adults more, make it fun and interesting. Find out what appeals to your audience and give them a good time.

If you’re teaching EMT and paramedic skills for a living, use coloring books for anatomy lessons.

If you’re preparing boring financial reports for a company, insert some photos of what actually happened with those expenditures.

If you’re a life coach, meet outdoors. I sometimes do coaching sessions while we hike trails.

Life is way too short to do everything the most boring and uninteresting way, so don’t. Have a little fun. You have my permission.

Dr. Redbeard

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at Thanks for reading!

In the words of Starship Troopers, “Would you like to know more?”





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A Special Message for Meeting and Event Planners

Category : Resources

Dear Meeting Planner,

I know you’re bombarded not only with planning your event, but also with a lot of requests to speak at that event. I’d like to do my best to be easy to work with and help you decide if I’m right for you or not.

Here are the top ten reasons to hire me…

  1. I look different.

Translation- The visual of my large beard, bald pate, and physically impressive frame engages the sense of sight along with hearing in my presentations and the audience is more apt to remember what the ‘big bearded guy said’ more so than many other speakers.

  1. I practice presentation Zen.

Translation- I won’t lull the audience to sleep with a boring slide show or a monotone voice.

  1. I’ll kick you into gear.

Translation- I find that motivation and inspiration are sometimes fleeting. I prefer to issue challenges that moves change from a thought to an action.

  1. I won’t picture you in your underwear.

Translation- That’s just gross. I’ll find another way to ease my own nervousness so that I can see the audience both as they are and as they want to be.

  1. I may burp, trip, or cry during my presentation.

Translation- I’m not perfect, and I don’t want to be. I find that audiences relate better to speakers who are real and genuine in what they’re talking about, instead of perfectly polished speakers with memorized note cards.

  1. I’ll educate you in relevant pop culture trivia.

Translation- With our constant access to media in so many ways, people absorb a tremendous amount of information from movies, television, books, and magazines. I enjoy using pop culture information to establish a link with the audience and enforce my points.

  1. I’m a superhero.

Translation- We all have a unique and particular superpower. Mine is to use my resources and analytical abilities to deliver a presentation that will ignite the superpowers of those in the audience.

  1. I’m a mad scientist.

Translation- I’m a certified genius, member of Mensa, have six college degrees, and read 50 books a year. I certainly don’t know everything, but I do aim to give what I know to others.

  1. I’m the most interesting man in the world.

Translation- At least my kids think I am. My DRD4 dopamine receptor gene is very healthy. The DRD4 is referred to by scientists as ‘the novelty gene’, which means that I am genetically gifted to seek out new things. I try just about everything, even if it scares the liquid out of me. I enjoy using my experiences to inspire and motivate people to try new and daring things.

  1. I’m done.

Translation- I have 42 more pages of why you should hire me, but I feel that the best speakers know when to cut it off.


Oh, wait…I have a BONUS reason- I’ll be a cheerleader for your event or company.

My social media kung fu is very strong. At a recent conference, my tweets and posts generated a lot of marketing value for the conference, even from people who did not attend but belonged to the same industry.

This included…

Over 83,000 people reached through retweets and shares. This doesn’t even include my own following of more than 19K people.


26 new Follows and Friends

I don’t charge extra for talking about your event. It’s just something I love to do.

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Dr. Redbeard’s Reading List

Welcome to Redbeard’s Reading List!

Essentialism: the Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown It’s not minimalism or doing more with less. This book is all about doing what’s important.

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod This amazing book will help you make the most out of the first part of the day and set the stage for all day awesomeness.

Strengthsfinders I use this book and test with all my coaching clients. It will reveal your top 5 superpowers.

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Have You Ever Been Through a Rite of Passage Event?

Whew! One done and four more to go.

We held a Rite of Passage event for my oldest son Abishai this year. After him I have three more boys anda girl to plan and hold them for. Another great reason to space out your kids as best you can.

We had a blast at the event and did our best to honor his passage into adulthood with…

  • Feats of strength
  • Huge amounts of carnivorous food
  • Gifts and challenges from other men
  • and Fellowship

As we planned and then held his event I tried my best to find a book that would tell me what to do. I couldn’t find one. There are articles and research into rites of passage for other cultures, but not modern America.

I found how some people groups and cultures do the following to welcome manhood…

  • perform a circumcision
  • have their young men build their own house and move out
  • turn over the care of their cows
  • and other painful, interesting, or outrageous activities and lessons

I found some neat ideas, but nothing that helped my planning, so I wrote a book about it.

If you want to plan a Rite of Passage for your young man, I hope it’s a great resource that will help you.

You can order a Kindle or print version HERE if you’d like one. Since you’re on my list I’d also love to give you something more if you order one. Just send me proof of your order by replying to this e-mail or at, and I’ll send you a PDF copy of the book to share with your spouse or Pastor.


Dr. Redbeard

PS…If you have any questions while you’re planning a Rite of Passage, be sure to fire them off to me. I’d love to see what you’re coming up with that’s different from the one I did.

Here’s my boy at his event…

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Jack Ryan for President

Welcome to the first installment of a brand new series exploring the leadership qualities of fictional Presidents, specifically Jack Ryan from the Tom Clancy novels.

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at Thanks for reading!

In the words of Starship Troopers, “Would you like to know more?”





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Best Books I Read Last Year

I read a lot of books each year. My max is around 150 that I read a few years back. I scaled it back though, because I found that I couldn’t remember as much from the books. Just too much information and not enough time to process and work on it.

Now, I read less, more fiction for enjoyment, and try to work through the non-fiction books instead of just reading them. Sometimes I’m known to read and even re-read a non-fiction book to get more out of it.

Last year I read 45 books. Here are the top gems from that list. They’re not in any particular order.

Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. This one came highly recommended from a friend. Because of it, I have an awesome morning routine that really gives me a jumpstart to the day.

Built to Sell by John Warrillow. This is actually the second time I read this book. It’s a business parable, a non-fiction book wrapped inside a fictional story to give it depth and meaning. The book is about gearing up your business to prepare it for a sell. I would highly recommend you read it before you start a business, not after. I reread it again because I’m helping a client plan his exit strategy from his business.

Scream Free Marriage by Hal Runkel. I attended one of Hal’s seminars last year and bought it there. It’s an excellent resource for self-helping your marriage. I also highly recommend any of his parenting resources.

Rise by Cara Brookins. Cara and her kids built their own house, mostly from watching Youtube videos. This book tells her amazing story.

E-Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber. This book has been out for a while, but I never picked it up. Based on a Facebook recommendation from a friend, I grabbed a copy. It’s an excellent adjunct and very similar format to Built to Sell. READ THIS BOOK before you start a business or NOW if you’ve already started one.

My fave fiction for the year-

Any of the Jack Ryan or Jack Ryan Jr. series’ from Tom Clancy

Lee Child’s Jack Reacher series

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at Thanks for reading!

In the words of Starship Troopers, “Would you like to know more?”






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My Compass for the Year


This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at Thanks for reading!

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Rite of Passage Resources- Reading List

As promised, here are resources I used and also mentioned in my book Rite of Passage- Initiating Your Son into Manhood.

Don’t forget- if you enjoyed the book, please leave me a review on Amazon. Thanks!

Books We Read-

Wild at Heart by John Eldridge book and small group DVD series

Raising a Modern-Day Knight by Robert Lewis

Rite of Passage by E. James Wilder

Thoughts For Young Men by J.C. Ryle

Who Wants to be Normal Anyway? by Kent Julian

Choose Your Own Adulthood by Hal Runkel

What’s Happening to Me? by Alex Frith

Mastery Journal by John Lee Dumas

The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale



Books to Read After the Rite of Passage-

Fight Club by Chuck Palahniuk

4-Hour Body by Tim Ferriss

Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey

Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer

Barbarian Way by Erwin McManus

Boy’s Passage Man’s Journey by Kirk Cameron and Brian Molitor

Tribes by Seth Godin

Success Principles  by Jack Canfield

Survival Guide for Life by Bear Grylls

48 Days to the Work You Love by Dan Miller


Books Recommended by Other Men-

Where the Red Fern Grows by Wilson Rawls

Hatchet by Gary Paulsen

The Giver by Louis Lowry


This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at Thanks for reading!

In the words of Starship Troopers, “Would you like to know more?”





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