Monthly Archives: June 2017

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We’re No Longer on the Way to Being Homeless

I know many of you were around for the start of my 40 Days to Homeless series. For you and any new list members, I’d like to do an update.

To get the entire story, be sure to check out…
40 Days to Homeless
39 Days to Homeless
38 Days to Homeless

On the situation, I have some really good news and some really bad news in equal parts. On the bad news front, I don’t want to strangle you with the whole story here, so I published a more complete version on my blog. What you’ll read there is part of the reason I’m only going to give you the good news on this update.

The good news…We’re not going to be homeless!

I landed a huge client back in South Carolina that is financially worth it to move back there from Chattanooga TN. Not that I want to leave the mountains and rivers, but I feel it’ll be a big step for easing our ‘big family’ housing situation in TN. It’s hard to find room for a married couple and 5 kids in rental housing, but we’ve managed to already secure housing there at the beach.

Aside from the big new client, work is also picking up in other areas as well…

I just wrapped up a 2 week speaking tour in the New England area that included 5 lectures at the Connecticut EMS Expo. My 10yo went with me and joined me in some of my video reviews.

As I wrote this, I’m currently in Nashville TN doing corporate training for Delta Airlines and the TN Treasury Department. This left me with some free time during the day to shoot video for several reviews at area state parks and hiking trails.

And the best news of all…

My 12yo son has just published his first book. His book The Kids Guide to Salads began as a homeschool assignment and morphed from a family experiment into a full book complete with photography. You can order your own copy HERE on Amazon, but if you want an autographed copy, get in touch. He gets really excited and has been working on his signature.

As always, your help is much appreciated in spreading the word, so please feel free to pass this newsletter on to others.


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I Screwed Up by Asking for Help

I screwed up by asking for help.

I hate saying that.

After all, I’ve been teaching my Pre-TSD program to vets and public safety folks for years, and the first piece of advice I give them and their families is to ask for help early and often.

My family hit a weird rough patch recently, and I was determined I wouldn’t be too proud to ask for help. I even set up a Go Fund Me page.

Boy was it a mistake to seek help.

I don’t want to repeat the whole issue. You can read about it by scanning back the past few blog posts. Basically, without warning, we were refused housing and a lease renewal by a number of places because we have 5 kids. All this was happening as our current lease was expiring. Basically, we were headed straight toward homelessness.

Friends and family are weird in a situation like this.

You’ll have a few friends and family members who really care about you and will try to help, even if encouragement is all they can offer. Several of my friends even opened up to me about their own struggles so that we could pray and talk together. I appreciated this. But you’ll often have a larger number of friends and family who will smell blood in the water and see this as an opportunity to tear you apart. And they did.

Here’s a few things I learned during this struggle and my plea for help…

  • Many people’s reactions will go against standard teaching regarding stress and pre-suicide.
  • Don’t ask for help or at least be very careful who you ask for help from.
  • Everybody hurts, but not like the REM song where they eventually come together.
  • Luke 11:11 became very real to me- “If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?”
  • Your closest friends and family will question every decision you ever made before offering any help.
  • Christians aren’t the only ones to step up and offer assistance (although we’d like to think so sometimes).
  • Only post regular updates and happy posts on the blogs and e-mails if you want people to read them.
  • People like you as long as you don’t need anything from them.

During this struggle, I started watching the Netflix series 13 Reasons Why. In retrospect I shouldn’t have. It made me consider things I shouldn’t be pondering. I guess what I’m saying is that this struggle and what happened because I asked for help are, in my 42 years of life, the lowest points of my entire existence. The things some of my friends said to me made me want to escape in any way possible from being hurt anymore.

Also during this time, a good friend of my dad’s, a guy that I’d known since I was in elementary school killed himself. The thing that I kept kicking around in my head was that there was just so much going wrong that he couldn’t take it anymore. I kept asking myself if I was near that point as well. Imagine someone you thought was a good friend saying things worse than this to you.

To be completely open and honest, it was thoughts of my kids that brought me back to a safe place. “Life insurance doesn’t pay out in a suicide” was my mantra. I knew doing something extreme and terminal would just put them in an even worse position.

I’m over it now, because the situation has been resolved and things are better. But this issue took me to a bad place that I know I’ll never forget. I’ve purged some people from my life that were toxic. I restructured some routines and tasks in my daily life. I’m getting closer to God. To quote from a Clive Cussler book I read recently, “Mistakes were made. They’re being addressed.”

With all that said, I’ll leave you with a quote from Brian Dixon-

“Your failure is not something to be embarrassed by. It’s a springboard to launch off from.”

This message was written by a team of geeks, nerds, gamers, and Dr. David Powers. You can always find us at Thanks for reading!

In the words of Starship Troopers, “Would you like to know more?”





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38 Days Until We’re Homeless in Chattanooga

In 38 days my family might be homeless in Chattanooga TN.

*For the whole story you can start the series HERE.

I got an e-mail today in response to this series that made me sick to my stomach. As soon as I read it, I messaged my buddy Ryan McRae, my best friend in the world.

I said, “Am I doing everything wrong? I just don’t want to be too ashamed or prideful to ask for help.”

His simple response was, “You’re doing fine and the right thing. And you’ll always have haters.”

Ryan made me feel better, like I’m not a total screw-up, and still have something to offer the world and my family.

Let me sum up what she said to me in an all day series of e-mails…

  • “You have accomplished nothing of value.”
  • “A little challenge and you’re freaking out?”
  • “You made your bed, not I, so lie in it.”
  • “I have more debt than you and I’m battling Lyme Disease, vocal cord dysfunction, Bartonella, IBS, GERD, and Optic Nerve Atrophy.”
  • “Life can be shitty at times.”
  • “No use pointing out birth control.”
  • “How about you spend the next 39 days reversing the decisions that put you in debt?”
  • “I filed for bankruptcy. You could do the same.”

Her words bothered me. Don’t think I’m not saying some of the same things and worse to myself anyway. You know what, though, I’m just gonna keep pushing on. I have to. Another thing Ryan taught me was that if I slow down too much or give it too much power, the Dark Passenger will show up and convince me I’m truly worthless.

In honor of this lady’s e-mails, I’ll mention a series of short stories I wrote about a husband living a truly crappy life where nothing goes right. It’s called The Diary of a Crappy Husband. I’m in that kind of mood right now.

The best way you can help me is by spreading the word. Please forward this e-mail on to everyone you know. I need as many people as possible to know about this in case they can help us or know someone else who can.

Thank you in advance for your help!

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